6 Reasons to Break Up with Your Man

Basketball star Dwayne Wade and actress Gabrielle Union were recently engaged. The pair had a close relationship for over four years. They then decided to take a ‘break’ away from each other. This was due primarily because Ms. Union had two movies scheduled back to back. Distance was an issue between the two.

During their break Mr. Wade had a baby with a close friend of his, the ex-girlfriend of Damon Wayans Jr. Four months later, the 32-year old Wade and Union got back together. Wade gave the 41-year old Union an engagement ring, which she accepted. This begs the question, if your man had a baby during a break in a relationship, would you take him back?

The term ‘break’ is one that needs to be explained and specifically defined. Technically, it usually means that a couple is separated and no longer a couple for a period of time. People are doing all kinds of things during a ‘break’ these days. And they usually believe that whatever they do during that period should not be held against them.

Taking a break means you are on a vacation from the relationship. But what you do during a break and with who should factor into whether or not you get back together. In my humble opinion, here are some circumstances about which I think it should be very difficult to go back into a relationship.

1. Your man has a baby with a woman during your break. This is such an egregious situation that it should now be called the “Union Break”

2. He has a baby by your best friend

3. Your man went back to his ex-girlfriend. Specifically, the one he had before you.

4. He dated your best friend - exclusively

5. He openly dated a coworker of yours

6. He married, and then divorced your best friend. If dating a best friend or having a baby by your former best friend is not enough, certainly his marrying your best friend should end one, if not both, relationships

Union says it was a mistake to schedule so much time away from Wade to make two movies. I say it shows his short attention span. Surely she will have to be away from Wade in the future for months if she plans to continue her acting career.

Why she took him back is a mystery. Still, the one good decision she plans to implement is to require her and Wade to sign a pre-nuptial agreement. She now understands his propensity to stray, and signing a pre-nup will ensure that her money, if not her heart, will be protected. .